'If it is true that at the core of our traumatized and neglected clients is disorganisation, that they then cannot analyze what is going on when they re-experience the physical sensations of past trauma, but that these sensations just produce intense emotions without being able to modulate them, then our therapy needs to consist of helping people to stay in their bodies and to understand these bodily sensations'.
Trauma is a psychophysical experience, even when the traumatic event causes no direct bodily harm. That traumatic events exact toll on the body as well as the mind. A big symptom on the list of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is persistent symptoms of increased arousal in the autonomic nervous system. Understanding how the brain and body processes and remembers, holds the key to the treatment of the traumatised body and mind.
Everyday we speak to couples who want something more from there relationships. Some are struggling to find the spark they once had, the humour that connected them or the smiles of reassurance. Others are fighting to survive as a couple, through parenting, child loss, finance and more. Couples looking for answers to face these challenges together with a new perspective, can be what brings them to us.
EFT (Emotional Focused Therapy) focuses on the core emotion inside us all. EFT targets the inner depth of emotion that leads us in our responses to ourselves and others. EFT targets the negative cycle we can find ourselves in from our arguing patterns and many others straining pressures in our lives..
EFT targets the destructiveness of ongoing arguing cycles by helping partners go below the surface of anger and frustration and into the more vulnerable emotions of hurt and fear.
As the couples arguments decrease. EFT can focus on how couples can find each other again in new ways. Finding ways to actively be more intimate and meeting each-others needs by learning to open up and communicate on a deeper level.
What Is Love Anyway...
Real love reminds us that nothing need fix us or complete us , precisely because it challenges the belief that we need fixing or that we are not whole!
Rather than see the positive change of love by fixating on the frenetic instability of seeking, looking, finding, clinging, we can see what’s right in front of us. The present moment- and whatever we are feeling in that moment IS complete !